Consider preserving some of the traditions you once shared as a way of honoring and cherishing good memories, but add some new traditions that represent a new normal in your life.
In any relationship we make personal sacrifices to meet our partner's needs. The compromise is well worth the resulting happy partner and fulfilling relationship. However, this is a time in life to focus on taking care of you. What have you always wanted to do during the holiday that you haven't been able to? Don't be afraid to think outside of the box!
Below are a list of new traditions my clients have created in the past and reported as being helpful:
- Traveling
- Going to church
- Cooking a different meal
- Volunteering
- Changing the location, day, or time you celebrate.
- Altering gift giving ( ex: Chinese gift extange, secret Santa, donating to charities)
- Decorating the house differently
If you have been able to find a good balance of old and new traditions, please consider leaving a comment below to share your experience with others. If this is new to you, please let us know what you come up with. These posts are intended to create a sense of support, so the more comments the better!
1 comment:
My mother made her transition going on nine years ago, come December 7th. That is also my birthday and I struggle. Although, I know where she is, and I am elated to know that. At the same time, my heart feels empty. I dedicate my birthday to my mother's memory. My husband will get the birthday cake my mother would also get for me on my "born" day, in honor of her memory.
This year, my husband is taking me on a trip for the weekend in an attempt to help me cope. I keep my focus on my Heavenly Father and at the same time, I do get sad.
Thank you for offering this free resource as I am believing I will find much comfort.
Chrystal Y.
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