Celebrating Adoption Motivational Monday

Adopted children have two important groups of people in their life including their parents and their biological parents. How they embrace that dynamic and those roles may look different for each child and may evolve throughout life experiences. However, it is crucial that they be allowed the freedom to define each of those individuals as a part of their being in a way that is most comfortable for them based on their unique circumstance. 

The poem below is a beautiful description of how each of these roles enrich a child's life. Although this poem is written about an open adoption where physical contact is still in place between a birth mother and a child, I think this could still most certainly apply to the emotional or spiritual connection a child could find (with creativity and guidance) without physical contact.

An Openly Adopted Child's Legacy

Once there were two expectant mothers.
One carried and cared for you beneath her beating heart
She became your Birthmother.
The other carried the hope of you within her.
She became your Mom.

As the days passed, and you grew bigger and stronger,
Your Birthmother knew that she could not give you all you needed after your birth.
Meanwhile, your Mom was ready and waiting for you.

One day your Birthmom and your Mom found each other.
They looked into each other’s eyes and saw a friend.

Your Birthmom saw the life your Mom could give you.
Your Mom saw how much your Birthmom loved and cared for you.

They decided that what you needed was both kinds of love in your life.

So now you have two families,
One by birth, the other by adoption.

And you have a home where you can get:
your questions answered,
your boo boos bandaged,
your heartaches soothed,
And much needed hugs.

And a place where you can find:
answers to your questions,
your image in the mirror,
a part of yourself,
And much needed hugs.

Two different kinds of families
Two different kinds of love
Both a part of you.

© Brenda Romanchik